AGGRESSIVE, DEPRESSION, ANGER

Aggressive anger

Aggressive anger behavior is associated with the ‘flight’ response and the use of the verbal and physical power of anger to abuse and hurt others.

The Symptoms of Aggressive Anger:

• Threatening: Frightening people by saying how you could harm them, their property or their prospects through finger pointing, fist shaking, wearing clothes associated with violent behavior like setting on a car horn or slamming doors.
• Sounding Hurtful: Explicitly showing off symptoms of physical violence through verbal abuse, unfair jokes, breaking confidence, playing loud music, using foul language, ignoring people’s feelings, willfully discriminating, blaming, or punishing people in to deeds they are known not to have committed.
• Being Destructive: By harming objects, knowingly destroying a relationship between two people, driving recklessly and drinking too much.
• By Bullying: Threatening people, persecuting, pushing or shoving, using power to oppress, shouting, using a powerful car to force someone off the road and playing on people’s weaknesses.
• Unjustly blaming: Accusing other people for your own mistakes, blaming people for your own feelings and making general accusations.
• Being Selfish: By ignoring other’s needs, not responding to requests for help queue jumping and suddenly cutting in when driving.
• Being Revengeful: By being over-punitive, refusing to forgive and forget and bringing up hurtful memories from the past.
• Being Unpredictable: Explosive rages over minor frustrations, attacking indiscriminately, dispensing punishment out of the blue, inflicting harm on others just for the sake of it, using drinks and drugs that are known to destabilize mood and using illogical arguments.

Depression Anger On Oneself: Anger can aggravate several mental health problems. Anger can fuel depression. People who are depressed generally don’t take care of themselves. They indulge in self-destructive activities, such as too much drinking, smoking, overeating, taking risks and not watching their finances. Depressed people have less energy, reduced appetite and need more sleep. Their performance will drop and relationships will deteriorate.

 

Many people believe that depression is, in fact, anger-turned inward. The reason for this assumption is because the depressed may react to stress by turning their anger inward as a response to physical or emotional abuse. Gradually, the coping mechanisms become habits that they use inappropriately and indiscriminately whenever they perceive loss or frustration.

 

The depressed tend to grow up believing that if they are hurt or abused, there are merely two options available, which are self blame and denial of blame. Their interpersonal relationships are often unhappy and they do not get the ‘breaks’ that other people seem to get. They may not get promotions, social invitations or love.

Hence, anger is not to be either curbed, controlled and but to be management. Like other life skills, Anger Management is also a skill which one needs to learn with the help of external impetus.